Aspie Adults

What are the symptoms of aspergers in adult women?

I can't pin it down but I keep thinking there is something off with myself. Looking back when I was growing up my mom and I just could not communicate very well. She thought one way and I thought another and there seemed to always be a lot of fighting between us because of that. I've noticed that in my adult years (I don't remember if I did this as a kid) I will also sometimes avoid eye contact because it makes me feel uncomfortable depending on the topic: (for example when scolding my kids they say I will not look at them but look to the side, past them or at the wall) If the topic is casual I can look people in the eye but when it gets too deep I tend to look away, I can talk fast, I go into too many details which means I'll go on and on, I can talk over people, I'm very controversial, transparent and when people get to know me in the beginning everything seems fine but then the friendship seems to wain off a bit (from my perspective...I may be wrong), my husband and I have silly/odd humor and I'm sensitive to certain things like loud sounds and sometimes strong smells.
(I don't remember having all those issues when I was a kid though. I had friends growing up and seemed fine. I was picked on a little bit in school because I was 'short' and got along with the guys better then the gals which produced jealousy in some of the gals. )
Are those symptoms of ASD or am I analyzing myself too much? I do like people though and getting together with others but I've also been self conscience since my school days when I was younger. For example: I would HATE to walk in the cafeteria last when everyone was already there... I was so uncomfortable and thought everyone was looking at me. I thought I was just too self focused or am I??
I always felt "different" then other gals: I love talking about theology ad nauseum and I'm not into talking about gardening and kids and other women stuff. (I'll do it because I'm nice but I find it BORING.)

Is that ASD or am I just a unique individual? *lol*

The other reason I'm asking is because I have twin boys, an 11 yr old girl and 2 yr old toddler (boy) and my 3 oldest are very intelligent, creative, speak their mind, have a hard time "hearing" me (I feel like a ghost in the room when I ask them questions, they hate criticism with a passion and they also have some angry outbursts, (the 1 twin who was evaluated was diagnosed with mild sensory processing disorder: tactile and auditory and from another therapist who specialized in ASD and behavior, with anxiety.)From observing my daughter and other twin I think they may have some sensory issues as well and they also have some stomach issues on top of it. I know that ASD has comorbid issues as well that goes along with it. Sorry I'm so tired and my brain is all over the map. Anyone have any answers? Am I worrying too much? I don't want to become so obsessive with getting them all evaluated but I keep hearing stories of kids who were never diagnosed having issues when they were older. What would you do??